Pro-action vs Re-action

This made me think of my Grandpa Jackson.

He would tell me about his Dog. He always had a dog.

He would say that his Dog was the Best dog.

He would tell me that his Dog was always a Good dog.

I would point out that his Dog was peeing on the floor.

He would just laugh and say, “well maybe right now, but he won’t get better if you focus on what he’s done wrong.”

I think this is a good lesson for today.

We get bombarded by faults. What is: Wrong, Bad, Illegal, and Salacious seems to get all the attention. People seek attention, and behavior is becoming more and more bizarre.

Today I’m grateful for reminders of my Grandfather, and opportunities to treat people as they could be.

Every day Emerson

I adore reading the Essays of Emerson. There is something timeless about his words, and observation on human behavior.

Last April I got to visit Authors Ridge at the Sleepy Hollow Cemetery in Concord, MA.

My cousin Shari and I had a blast wandering up and down the hills of that beautiful property.

Today, I’m grateful for reminders to let the old blunders go, and to focus on the day ahead.

Emerson has quite the Grave Marker. It was the finest on the ridge, rightly so.

Tolkien on my mind.

Today the Movie Tolkien is out for streaming. Of course I bought it, and have watched it again.

It got me wondering about his fellowship. And I ordered his friend’s book of poetry, “A Spring Harvest” by Jeffery Bache Smith. It’s actually available on Amazon, probably because JRR Tolkien wrote the forward.

Tolkien was required reading for me in 7th grade…..The Hobbit was my entree into Tolkien’s world.

My family had just moved to Texas, and I didn’t have any friend yet, so I found my friends in books. What a better way to enjoy friends than to disappear into Middle Earth and travel along with Bilbo Baggins and the Dwarves of Erebore.

What I adored the most was the sense of honor, nobility, friendship, good vs evil, the contributions all can make. Oh, plus the language, the poetry, were big attractions for me. It was simple, but really compelling language that still speaks to kids today.

Reading more, and learning more about Tolkien has been fabulous.

I found this quote that I thought was perfect for today.

Self acceptance. Did I miss the boat?

From Brene Brown via Pinterest and Brainy Quote.

I struggle with all the self care, self acceptance, and self love hoopla.

Maybe it was the way that I was brought up.

I never saw all the holes in my boat, until I started looking deeper into this subject.

Belonging is something that I cultivate within my family, and my gal pals, and my group at the yoga studio. I’ve been very welcomed at my job, but I hold myself a bit apart. It begs the question: what haven’t I accepted in myself?

There is still a part of me that expects rejection. I expect people not to show up, to cancel, beg off, make excuses. It’s a big part of my job. I support clients at their convenience, not mine. I support the firm. Their schedule is above mine.

It might just be easier to believe people won’t show up, cancel, or reject me so that I won’t be too disappointed when it happens? The search for why is ongoing.

Why do I still believe that I’m not enough? Can that ever change?

Texas state of mind

Traveling this week across the state by car, I find myself in a Texas State of mind.

What is a “Texas state of mind”? For me, it’s marveling over the diversity of the state, the vastness, the beauty, the people.

Yesterday I drove from Houston to Waco for meetings, then continued on to Dallas for my meetings today. Waco is so laid back, and easy. Dallas is not.

For example, I was grabbing some dinner and a glass of wine at Pappadeaux last night when 2 young men sat down at the bar next to me. Both were not from Texas, but one was on his first visit. They struck up a friendly conversation with the pretty bartender, and the ‘seasoned’ Texas traveler made fun on the ‘new’ one’s pronunciation of some of the items on the menu.

The bartender asked them where they were from. Both replied ‘up north’.

That made me smile. When you ask a Texan where they are from, inevitably they say Texas, and then they will describe which part of Texas they are from. Even if we are outside of the US we are one of the only folks who claim our state first when we travel abroad. We aren’t just Americans. We are Texans.

I know many from Oklahoma who will proudly claim their home on the first question, I’ve even heard some Californians do the same, but not many. Most Californians, in my experience, say they are from the West Coast.

It took the bartender 3 questions to get the actual state that the boys from ‘up north’ were from. They were from Philadelphia, PA. The first time Texas Traveler laughed that it was as cold in Dallas as it was in Philly when he left. Texas is one of those places where it could be 90 one week, and have snow flurries the next. That’s true. Last week it was horribly hot. This week, well the Airport in Houston saw some frozen precipitation, the earliest recorded freezing rain since 1979.

Since I’m nostalgic about my home, and a little worried that with the number of people moving here daily changing our culture, I found this quote from John Steinbeck from his book Travels with Charlie.

A great reminder

Expectations are things that trip me up.

I’m not sure why I have fallen back into expectations, but I got a good kick in the pants and it’s time to get back to appreciation and gratitude.

Expectations put an unnecessary pressure to situations, and I have found that they also limit my ability to appreciate.

I’m starting off with a fresh perspective this morning.

I’m so grateful for the kick in the pants that woke me up from expectations and reminded me to appreciate the gifts in front of me.

Have you ever been grateful for a kick in the pants?

The soap continues

The soap has cured, it’s un-molded, and drying. I am very pleased.

A batch unscented, 1 lavender, 1 rosemary.

7 pounds of sudsy stuff that I can wrap up and gift.

Why soap? Well, when I spent 18 months unemployed, I needed something to do to be productive. Between working on our acreage, and getting the bees established, I really needed something to do to be creative.

I’m not a crafty person, but being creative with a purpose appeals to me. Like cooking, making things that makes someone happy, or hearing them ask “you made that?” It’s a good thing.

I also nerd out measuring everything by weight, mixing the lye and water, getting everything to compatible temperature. Then I use an immersion blender to whazz everything to trace, adding the essential oils, molding, keeping the soda ash from forming. Ooh! It’s fun.

Who doesn’t need soap? These are Lux Bars. Really luxurious, velvety, sumptuous lather from Shea butter, Sweet Almond Oil, Caster Oil, Coconut Oil, and Olive Oil.

Today, I’m grateful for things that come together well, and for a supply of a little bit of my care, time, and talent to wrap up and gift.

It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself. 

Ralph Waldo Emerson

What do you ignore?

We live in a very touchy society.

Being offended is an art form.

We are offended by the news, politics, food choices, traffic, smoking, vaping, perfume, noise, silence, comfort, hardships, weather, education, ignorance, pretense, sex, lack of sex, choices, forced opinions about choices, religion, science, fireworks, patriotism…..

So many people thinking that they know so much but ignore nothing because they are too busy being offended.

What would happen if we would just relax?

Is ignoring the silliness the best way of knowing what is good?

Tomorrow is Monday. Let’s just chill out.

(You know I Had To Do It!)

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