I’m not trying to make sense, as I’m still trying to understand.
My husband and I have been together since late 1991. We know each other well, which makes our current situation odd.
We rarely fight each other. If we are fighting it is on the same side against others.
When we fight each other….
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When we fight each other, the earth quakes, as we rain down wrath that makes nature back up in awe. He might be a foot taller than me and 100 pounds heavier, but I’ve never backed down from him, nor will I.
What was odd about our recent altercation was his immediate humility, apology, and my immediate forgiveness, absolution, and appreciation.
I was hurt. His recent neglect, and lack of interest had culminated in an obvious display that I couldn’t tolerate. I put my foot down. He turned a paler shade or white…..apologized verbally, demonstrated the apology, and all was right….immediately. The moment he recognized the issue, and apologized the atmosphere completely changed and I was once again awed by the power of making peace.
All ego was cast aside, and I was the one humbled and moved by the power he held in his apology. It was a valiant and honorable demonstration of his love for me. But all the power remained with him.
It was amazing. But of course he had the power, because I was the one hurt, and only he could fix it. When he offered the remedy and I accepted I was putty in his hands.
It was an amazing and profound reminder of the power that humility holds, and the cementing effects of an apology on a relationship.
Never be afraid to apologize to those who really love you.
It was a profound lesson for me.
“There is always hope and power to those who can love, and apologize.” Quote being my own.