Bolognese a bubbling

What is it about rainy days, and the first “cool” front that makes me want to cook?

I got to the store early after spotting a great recipe for a Short Rib Bolognese sauce.

Today I’m grateful to find a new recipe to try, ingredients easy to acquire, and a fabulous pot to cook it all.

It’s a bubbling. Should be ready for dinner, and the house now smells amazing.

What do you like to cook on rainy days?

Something to enjoy

My recent dive into new poets, and a close look at beautiful sculpture has uncovered a new word for me.

From the Greek “meraki”. We all know someone who puts love into what they do. It’s so obvious that they are committed to their project that their work just stands out.

It could be seen in a beautiful garden, or photo, or poem, or meal, or the way a home is kept, or the way a team comes together.

Have you enjoyed something recently that had “Love” sprinkled in that just delighted you?

Is there something that you do that you can’t help but put that extra “love” into?

I’m a bit of a homebody. On Saturdays when I clean the house, I’m putting love into the chore. When I’m finished, I sit in my clean home and I feel such a sense of satisfaction and comfort. My home is not fussy, and there are no “untouchable” items here. I’m definitely not a clean freak. It’s just that I grew up in an “untouchable” house and that’s not fun. I strove for something different.

The enjoyment comes when friends and family gather together and they are comfortable. The best compliment I ever got was from my Brothers-in-law Tom and Kenny when at one gathering they remarked that they would come to anything at our house because it was “warm and comfortable”. That’s when I knew that the love I put in was seen by someone else. It was the best compliment I ever received.

Now it’s time for me to put some love into my garden and clean away the spent plants from summer, put out some mulch, and let the soil rest a bit till February.

My life as a Corporate Clean Up artist

Many moons ago I worked for a Savings and Loan, that’s no longer in business. They didn’t make it through 2008.

I grew up there, you might say. I started right out of college as a Manager Trainee.

After a couple of years, I was labeled by my manager as (and I quote) “unconsciously competent”. I didn’t realize at the time how that label would haunt me. I must have been unconscious and doing something competent. I don’t know. It was a weird label.

I became a Branch Manager. Then I was lured away to the lending department as a loan officer, then I became a District Manager, a Trainer, and then……it happened.

I started getting transferred from District to District for the dreaded Corrective Action for employees not meeting minimum production standards.

Because in banking, if you aren’t measuring it, reporting on it, or meeting about it, you have to be producing it. And we had folks that weren’t producing, and managers who couldn’t manage the non-producers out the door. So someone had the brilliant idea to let me handle it.

For 3 years I moved from office to office. After the 2nd transfer, people caught on that I was being brought in to fire people. I developed an eye-twitch, I drank to excess, and I would have horrible nightmares. I realized at the age of 32 that I would rather be liked than be in charge.

I was 32, a young mom, very cute, and people were afraid of me. I was promised that if I would clean up the Texas Districts I could name my assignment. That didn’t happen, and I ended up resigning.

It’s a difficult job firing people for a living. Don’t get me wrong, it really had to be done, but mostly because the non-producers shouldn’t have been hired in the first place. When I suggested that the hiring managers could clean up their own mess, or I maybe I should focus on the hiring managers my peers turned on me. Politically Correct I am not. And I wasn’t very happy being the maid service for those who were not competent in any state of consciousness, and were not being held to the same standard I was being held.

I fired, or accepted resignations from 23 people across 6 districts in 3 years. In all that time, no one made it through to produce. It is never easy, but the more I had to go through the motions I had to marvel at people who were not really working, not trying, not really understanding their jobs, and not making commissions! They tried so desperately to hold onto those jobs. 120 day corrective action cycle usually could be wrapped up in 90 days. (Unconsciously Competent….see the pattern). After my second transfer, I had three people just resign and leave when I scheduled our initial meeting.

Today, I am grateful that I’m not in charge of anything except managing my accounts, and sending in 1 weekly report to the partners of my firm.

When I look back on some of the ridiculous things that had to be done in my career, I’m so grateful not to be in banking anymore or in charge. I think my eye twitch would come back if I had to be in charge.

Sorry about the typo at the bottom. That Meme writer is Fired!


I’ve been looking at bronzes, and longing to get to a museum.

Images from Pinterest.

Camille Claudel 1864-1943 French Sculptress/Artist.

She was a contemporary of Matisse, and Picasso. She kept going when no one believed in her.

There is something about sculpture, specifically bronze, that really speaks to me. I like Marble too. There is something so amazing about a cold hard element being turned into something warm, fluid, and wonderful. I just want to touch it.

What art speaks to you?

To my baby on his 24th Birthday

My dear, beautiful, son,

What a magnificent young man you’ve become.

When I see your life in my mind, I see great things for you.

I can see fabulous friendships, a wonderful marriage with someone who will be your full partner, best friend, and fierce protector…yes men need a wife who will protect them just as women need a husband who will their security, and covering.

When I close my eyes, I see many Holidays, vacations, trips, dinners, and birthday parties through the years.

I can imagine a wonderful profession, witty inventions, and fabulous successes for you.

God willing, I see you with your children being a fabulous father, playing games, teaching important lessons, and nurturing your babies to become their best selves.

I pray that we enjoy many good times ahead, laughing, enjoying, and keeping each other strong.

You have become a wonderful man of great heart, beautiful mind, and strong work ethic. I’m immensely proud of you.

Your loving mama.