Reflections

Yesterday we went to a funeral for one of my husband’s cousins. It was very moving, and the oldest daughter gave a sweet tribute to her dad. There were great stories told, and memories shared after the service. The obligatory food was consumed. Promises to stay in touch were exchanged.

Why does it take the passing of a life to create the pause to reflect on what’s important and to cherish the people we care for?

I guess I’ve been challenged by this event to take more pauses and appreciate my family while we are still face to face.

Today, I’m so grateful for time, my cozy home, and my husband who always fixes me coffee in the morning.

Gratitude on a Sunday

It’s been a busy week. Conventions for Mortgage. Seminar for bees.

Travel by plane.

Travel by car.

Today, I got to play a little and went to a couple of yoga classes.

I’m so grateful for my family, my job, my dogs, and a little time to myself.

Whatever your week brings you, I hope it’s something that keeps a smile on your face.

Atlantic in January two years running

Last year my boss and I came to Florida to visit clients, and we had to take a stroll on the beach.

This was South Florida near Boynton Beach.

This month, I’m getting to hang out in January in Florida closer to the Georgia line.

I like the beach, the sound of the waves, and the overall feel of the water. I’m just not a big “sand” person.

This place is pretty Cool. Amelia Island has been under 8 different flags since the 1600’s. There was a British fort here during the Revolutionary War. U.S. Grant stayed in one of the hotels while campaigning for President. There is more Pre-Civil War architecture here than any other spot in the southern United States. It’s completely charming.

We had a fancy dinner party for clients, and having the ocean to ourselves was pretty cool.

The more I see of Florida, the better I like it. Cool state.

Snowy Garden

Down the icy path to check on my friends.

She doesn’t look too phased by the icy temps.

St. Francis seems to holding up ok, hiding behind the frozen brown firecracker fern, and still green for now fox tail fern.

The sleepy bunny slumbers away, unfazed by the whole quarfuffle.

Twice in as many months we’ve had a little winter white on the ground.

It will soon warm up, and it will all be gone.

I didn’t think it was true

As I gave up on resolutions, and accepted where I am right now I started to understand how much I have changed over the last 5 years.

In March of 2013 I started this blog as a basic attempt to have a focused time of Gratitude. I wanted to find something every day, if possible, to be grateful for.

In 2013, I was really struggling trying to take care of my terminally ill mother, travel for work, maintain my marriage, be a mom, go through menopause. I was spread out very thin, and Gratitude was my anchor to keeping a form of balance in my life.

Through the journey of finding gratitude in the little things and big things of my life, I have changed over the last 5 years. It was slow, it wasn’t easy, but as I look back I have changed in more ways than I’ve realized.

Gratitude keeps me grounded, and I have found it’s easier to let things go and not get so stressed.

Being more than just my profession, is the biggest change. I used to solely identify with my work role. I was Wendy the Mortgage Professional. 25 years seasoned mortgage veteran. Blah, Blah, Blah. Now I embrace just being Wendy, and that is plenty good enough.

Women friends. I’ve developed some nice friendships outside of my work friends. I’m so grateful to have these crazy gal pals. They are so much fun, and it has nothing to do with my professional identity.

Learning to laugh at my mistakes instead of agonizing for weeks over them is a big change too.

Self-Care is not selfish. You can’t pour out of an empty vessel. I’ve learned that if I take time to take care of myself, I can better care for others.

I’ve had a lot of fun with Zumba, Yoga and TRX. Fitness has it’s place and helps me keep my stress levels down. I never thought I would ever have the patience or desire to do Yoga. It’s such a pleasure to say that I’ve really come to enjoy it, and it’s one of my favorite things to do.

My bees have taught me a lot about patience, creativity and hard work. I never thought I would be so fascinated with bugs! It is the most surprising things over the last 5 years that I would give one flip about a bug. I love my bees.

I’ve come to better accept myself. I think it was easier to give up on trying to change myself through New Years resolutions, because I have changed so much already, and I like myself better now than I ever have.

Gratitude has been the path of new discoveries, and although the changes have been slow, and small they have made a big difference in me becoming a better Wendy. The journey isn’t finished, and I’m excited to see what happens next.

Thinking ahead for the new week

Big things coming up next week, and they are on my mind.

Can we get the seminar done with the weather being so unpredictable? Does it matter? –Things can be rescheduled.

Can I get to the office on Tuesday if it freezes? Does it matter? –I can remote print the Power Point.

Do I have to get up at O’dark 30 to fly out for a dinner and entertain clients till midnight? –No, I can go a day early, and make sure I’m fresh and ready for the conference.

Do I really have to worry about how my arms look in this dress? —-No, they are arms, they won’t change the world. Everything else is fine, just get a tiara and no one will be looking at your arms.

Why didn’t the coordinator email me back after I sent the contract and subsequent requests? —Try again.

Why is it so hard to replace the kitchen faucet? —-Let it go and move on, everything will work out.

Sometimes it’s difficult to be inside my own head. At least I’m learning comebacks for the more difficult issues, like Kitchen Faucets.

Heading to an Inversion class

Since March I’ve been taking yoga, and I’m having a great time.

Today, I’m heading to an Inversion class where we will work on our head stand, shoulder stand, and hand stand techniques.

I’ve recently graduated from my headstand with a wheel, to a solo head stand. I hope that today, I can learn a little better form, and have some fun.

Happy Saturday!