I’m the meanest person you have ever met


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We went to a seminar at Texas A&M; at the Riverside campus; at the world renown Bee Lab;  and there was a very important question in our session as we were running short of time.

“Who is the meanest person in the room?”

Unabashedly, I raised my hand.  

“You?  OK That’s great.  Let me know when we hit 1:30 pm.  My time is up.  I need you to keep me on time.”

Ok….not to mock the grad student who didn’t have a watch or an IPhone with an alarm.  Really?  You have the timeline for an egg thru pupation of a Queen Bee down to a science, but you can’t time yourself for your section of a lecture?

Not to disparage an intellectual who can’t tell time, or a great university who can’t plan a seminar without scheduling breaks or working their sections on time……oh wait. I think I have just figured out what makes me the meanest person in the room…..I hold people accountable to their actions.

We live in a world filled with arrogant jerks.  I’m not sure how we make it out of this stupid generation.

Holding the intentionally unaccountable– accountable, I’m the meanest person in the world.

When a world class institution needs this kind of help (telling time without the class bell)….we have to ask important questions like WTF?

When does the esoteric become the ridiculous?  When the nicest person you know has lost their niceness. 

Times have oficially become really dangerous.

17 thoughts on “I’m the meanest person you have ever met

  1. I visited A&M once as a junior in high school. The Science Club went to see an electron accelerator. I remember silently asking…..”WTF?” cuz it was not all that exciting and it was a super lonnnnng drive through the hill country. And then I saw some moon rocks on display. Pretty cool. And yet, “Grown ups are so strange,” I can hear a Little Prince comment. So much time and thinking is wasted on attending to ones self as the expense of others. Yes. Mindfullness is key when riding a carrossell casserote of jerks. At least he wasn’t a Columbia man with a pipe. ha ha

      • Which one? WTF? The Little Prince? or Carrossell casserole? Say that five times fast!!! I mostly avoid training classes these days. They just aren’t what they’re cracked up to be. Or if I can’t get out of something, I’ve learned to use the “Pee and Tea.” Excuse yourself to the restroom. Then, procede to the coffee, tea and tasties table. Make a new friend. Stretch this out. Repeat. Reap. Eat. I just Love your posts, Wendy!

      • No kidding. The Little Prince caught my attention. Good for you staying away from formal classes…they are too expensive, and they tend to be disappointing.

  2. Loved this essay, Wendy. You’re right on so many points. As a literal aside – what happens sometimes is that people don’t know how to pace themselves while speaking. The concept of preparing, planning and timetabling is common sense to some people but not to others. I have noticed a lot of PhDs graduating and being given courses to teach without actual training in how to create good content. Aside from that, the arrogant jerk thing bothers me a lot, too. I note that sometimes the meanest remarks come from the people who are happy to accept our kind remarks or warm shows of support. I am nice but not a doormat or people pleaser. There’s a big difference.

  3. I think everyone has a different set of barriers and triggers. So for some people an alarm on a phone is not enough to stop the momentum, but a human interrupting is.

    It’s still not a great way to handle it, though. Ideally you don’t end a seminar mid-thought. You finish all the planned information. Having a person interupt you like an alarm clock will not accomplish that. Have a series of pre-planned alarms that you can check against your progress in the lecture will do that. You can then speed up or edit as necessary. But that does require a deeper level of planning and probably practice.

    Humans don’t seem to come out of the box with natural planning instincts. I think it’s a learned skill and a class on it could replace a great many useless things taught to kids in school.

  4. Wow, I didn’t see where that was going based on the beginning. Funny essay. I’ll have to say I consider myself fairly normal–wait, change that to average. I know the importance of watches, calendars, and social interactions. I also have spent time with the PhD types and there are a lot of things that they just don’t get. Just like I don’t get the laws of thermodynamics, many of them don’t see the relevance of their interactions with other people. After all, what could be more important than their field of expertise? Seriously!

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