Quit looking around at what other’s have, or how they look. Enjoy where you are with what you have! Kick up your heels and dance with joy over how fabulous you are!
Here’s my personal experience with my struggles with comparison. It’s not exhaustive, by any means, but it is most recent.
I worked out with a personal trainer for a few months last year. I hated working out in the gym with all the fab bods running about showing off their toned selves. I hated all the mirrors in that place, especially when I would leave the gym red faced, sweating, and exhausted. My trainer noticed that when we would set up for whatever station we were starting, I would close my eyes while I completed the session. He figured out what I was doing. That trainer made me look at myself, he would make me watch every move I made until I could see myself, instead of everyone around me. He’d make me see the improvements, he’d encourage me to keep going, and he would remind me of how I was getting stronger. I came to enjoy working out till my pony-tail would drip with sweat.
I’ve made some peace with my reflection. I’m not where I want to be yet, but I know that looking around and comparing myself to others, I’m cheating myself out of my own joy in improving my health and well being. I have to be the best me I can be.